Men, Women, Sex & Parenting

Posted: March 8, 2010 in Daily Blog
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Two Sunday’s ago we started a series on Men, Women, Sex & Parenting, designed to help us see where we are “Off Target” in these areas.  The first week I challenged the men in our church to do two things; first, take an hour out of their week and sit down with their wives asking these questions: (I got many of these questions from Perry Noble)

  1. Where have I become slack in my efforts to make you feel important?
  2. Men ask your wife to complete this sentence: I think its romantic
    when you_____.
  3. Ask each other: Are you engaging in anything online that you be ashamed of if I found out?
  4. My favorite memory we have made together is…
  5. Men ask your wife to complete this sentence: I feel most loved by you when you _______.
  6. What things are most worrying to you right now?
  7. What is one thing that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning?
  8. I am most concerned about _______  in our life right now.

Then they were supposed to purposefully get together with another man, or group of men, and begin cultivating covenant relationships.  Men are good at keeping their inner thoughts private, and for us to live healthy growing lives and hit the bulls eye of pleasing God, we need to get the inside outside and be more transparent with our wives and each other…

This past Sunday we spent some time looking at women’s hearts and how they often miss the target because of their busy lives.  Women have so much going on in their lives, it is easy to accumulate baggage in their hearts, so their challenge was to get alone with God and answer these questions:

Ask God to reveal to you any negative or betraying thoughts or attitudes about your Husband.  What resentments do you feel you have towards him?

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What thoughts go through your mind during the week that might be misleading you to believe something about yourself that God, your Father in heaven, would not agree with?

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What sacrifices have you made for others that you feel were too great and leads you to resentment?

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What attitudes do you harbor that God wants you to let go of?

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What keeps you from spending more time with God?  (list them out, then go back through and ask yourself what you could do without so you could spend more time with Him decorating your heart to make it of “surpassing value” to Him)

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Are you holding a grudge against another woman?  Is there a women you are being critical of?  What do you need to do to make it right with her?

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Do you hold others to impossible standards that you couldn’t live up to?  What do you need to do to release them from those standards?

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Who are you trying to please in life?

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And in addition to that, I had asked them to examine their attitudes towards other women, (women seem to be hardest on other women) and if there was something they were holding against someone else, or if there was something they needed to deal with, to make some steps towards resolution and restoration.
So far I have really enjoyed this series, partly because I feel like we all need to hear it, but also because the challenges hopefully keep the subject moving forward in people’s lives.  If you are part of our services here at Springs Ranch, I would love to hear how the challenges and or messages are impacting your life!
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